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I Remember It Like It Was Yesterday

It was tragic, it was life changing, it was earth shaking.  Those are just a few words to describe something that shakes up your world and changes who you are at your core.  However, those events don’t just go away from your memory. If anything, they stick there and hang out in your subconscious and cause havoc on your life, year after year after year.  These are called “history of events” in the therapeutic world, and they can play out in ways you couldn’t even imagine.

If you notice that someone you love continues to behave oddly or get physically ill around the same time each year, it may help for you to ask if something happened to them and when. This can help them pin point their own mental blocks and take new steps to hop over them into a more healthier mindset.  Hopefully, this will also help you have more patience with the ones you love and try to understand their mental breakdown with a more open heart.

Everyone can’t just “get over” stuff, and sometimes it can get down right irritating to figure out why someone is acting out a certain way or getting sick when there is environmentally no reason for it.  Sometimes you have to be a detective with the ones you love, and ask questions that aren’t so easy to ask.  Questions like, “I noticed that every year around this time you tend to get really sick and I wanted to know did something happen to you a few around this time in the past?”  That is a great way to show that you care and genuinely want to know what is triggering this person to go downhill.

Everything can’t be blamed on PMS or bad work days, sometimes it’s much bigger than that and if you care or love the people you are connected to, sometimes you just have to ask questions to understand them.

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It’s Easy To Say This, What Is Not So Easy is To Do This….

Easy, Effort, they both start with E’s and they both are very opposite from one another.  I have told myself that I want something, but am I really willing to put the effort in? My cousin made a post today that made me reflect on this, and after 3 hours of therapy, I walked out feeling that same empty feeling again.  We want our lives to be different so bad, but sadly many times we just don’t know how much it will change because we weren’t willing to put the effort in just to see the results that could come from it. 

Results are never guaranteed, and in this Western society we do too many things off results and nothing else – we won’t work out unless we are guaranteed a certain number of calories lost.  We don’t want to try something new unless we know we will succeed.  Leaving us to live in a society that is limitless, but imprisoning ourselves in our own limiting minds.  

What if we decided for once, who cares about the payoff – let me just be consistent, let me put in the effort and let’s just see what happens.  But, how difficult this theory is, especially those who feel like they are racing against the clock.  The clock of bills, life, age, and biology all working against us with every minute that passes .

Truth be told, we will all die, but if we die we can at least leave a legacy that will always be alive.  This legacy will most likely say one or two things,  they tried their best, or didn’t try at all because they feared not having the perfect outcome.  Which legacy do you want to leave behind?

For me, I know which one I THINK i want to leave behind, the one that would be NICE to leave behind, but that means that I have to put in the effort to be able to leave it behind, and is it worth all that? Most definitely!

So, today  – what have you been saying that you wanted to do, to have, or to be but when reality set in you just weren’t willing to put in the effort to achieve it – and why not?  Will you regret it 10 years from now, or will you take each minute of you day and do something that you will appreciate later? 

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