The truth is, no one wants to set boundaries because it’s a tough pill to swallow if someone feels you are not worth staying within them. No one wants to be rejected, no one wants to be told that their boundaries are “too much.” It’s much easier to allow people to push the limit and hope they will see your worth before it’s too late. Unfortunately, for some, that day never comes.
Those individuals who allowed their boundaries to lean a little to the left, realize it’s too hard to change the game in the 9th inning. Sometimes it’s too hard to change, sometimes it’s too hard to enforce. Knowing that you have to wake up, suit up in a level of armor to protect you from those who you never protected yourself from in the beginning can just be “too much” but not if you know your worth.
If you know your worth, you know that almost everyone pushes the limit a time or two, but that doesn’t mean you have to let them keep pushing. If you know your worth, you know when to demand respect and when to pay attention to the signs that someone may not ever respect you, no matter how much you try to demand it. If you know your worth, you realize that you can’t change anyone, but you can change who you are around and who you let in your life.
It is important that you realize that knowing your worth can save your life, keep you safe, and reduce the amount of bullsh*t that you bring and allow to stay in your life. If you don’t know what you are worth, take a look around you and ask yourself what you entertain on a daily basis, and what entertains you. There is a difference. Figure it out, and remember when you figure out what you are worth, you won’t settle for anything less than that.
Emma J. Wallace, M.Ed.
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